My Story

No, becoming a divorce coach was not what I always wanted to be when I grew up.  It was personal experience that brought me here.

My parents divorced when I was 13. At the time, I thought it was going to be terrible. And I was terrified. But, to my surprise, things got better. My parents’ relationship improved. My relationships with each of my parents improved. And, as my parents found new partners, my family grew. All in all, I grew up thinking divorce was a good thing.

When I was in my mid-twenties, I got married. My husband and I grew up together. In fact, he used to sit behind me in fourth grade and pull my hair. Ours was a cute story, but we were not a happy couple. The night he suggested we separate, I was immediately livid, but soon felt relieved. It was, quite simply, time to let go.

My divorce wasn’t without struggle, but we had a productive process. Overall, I felt good about what we were doing. However, when I told people about my divorce, I was surprised by the reactions I received. Everyone seemed to be angry or sad about my news, yet I was neither.

At first I was curious and went on a quest to learn more about divorce in our culture. I noted that we (as a society) tend to look down on those going through a divorce. Furthermore  we focus almost exclusively on the legal facets of the process. But it’s really a human process with a legal document attached to it. Unfortunately the human aspect is largely ignored, leaving divorcees flailing in isolation and despair.

My research left me feeling pretty sad. I vowed to change the conversation and culture around divorce. I wanted more families to evolve, as mine had, instead of dissolve, as I’ve seen others do.

In 2010, I met a woman who was a divorce coach, and she was offering training. I knew it was exactly what I’d been searching for, and I I signed up. Since then, I’ve also written and published my book, The D-Word, and I’ve also expanded my training to include parenting, mediation, communication, conflict resolution, and more.

These days, my passion lies in helping struggling singles overcome shame and frustration, so they can find peace and create a life they love. I offer a variety of options to serve individuals as well as other divorce professionals.  And I love my work.

Random Facts About Me

Yes, I’ve also felt the agony, anxiety, and animosity that can follow the end of a partnership.
I have a dog and two cats.
Cape Cod, MA is my favorite place on Earth.
I'm a volunteer Big Sister.
I often cry when I read children’s stories.

Why Work With a Divorce Coach?

You’re lost and looking for a new direction.
Conversations constantly turn into arguments.
You’re running on a hamster wheel of shame, blame, and drama.
Your ex (or someone else) is driving you crazy.
You want to be a better parent.
You’re desperately hanging by a thread in your day-to-day life.
You’ve gotten too much advice, and you don’t know who to trust.
You want to stay mindful, save money, and be responsible about your process.
You know you can do better, but you’re not sure how.

What Happens When You Work With Me as Your Divorce Coach?

I’ll listen and hold space for you and your story.
We’ll create clarity around your values, intentions, and goals.
I’ll encourage you, challenge you, and hold you accountable.
You will step forward with dignity and determination.

If you’re feeling lost, confused, or stuck, coaching can help.

But it’s not for everyone. And I’m not for everyone.

Straight Talk:  I don’t provide therapy. I don’t give legal advice. And I only work with those who are up to the task of self-reflection and improvement.  Those who aim to get better, not stay bitter (because hating isn’t healing). Those who believe in their personal power to create positive change in their lives.

Is that you?

If so, I invite you to schedule a 30-minute consultation. During this time, we’ll talk about where you’re at, where you want to go, and how I might help you get there.

Here’s How It Works:

1. Pick Your Time
2. At your scheduled time, I’ll call you at the number you provide.
3. I’ll listen while you tell me All About You
4. I’ll tell you how I might help you. And if I don’t think coaching is the right avenue for you, I’ll give you another suggestion.
5. I’ll send you a follow-up email to recap any recommendations we talked about.

Sounds pretty easy, right?