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Family Matters with Jill Egizii (February 4, 2013)
Co-Parenting Matters with Deesha Philyaw (March 10, 2013)
Chapter 2: Real Divorce Stories, Real Divorce Support with Dawn Sinnott (May 24, 2013)
What People Are Saying
Tara Eisenhard has a powerful message to share. Her passion drives her insights and delivery on the relevant topic of divorce. Her inside perspectives and candidness make her presentations exciting, intriguing, and educational. Her book is useful for couples, families, parents, children, and therapists. Her GOOD Divorce™ Philosophy and useful question/empathetic response comments help transform a dialogue around divorce from negative and shameful to positive, compassionate, and uplifting.
Kate Wolfe, President of Rhode Island Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (RIAMFT)
The D-Word is a beautifully evolving book that gives divorcing and divorced parents insights into how dramatically their actions, conversations and decisions impact their innocent children. Divorce is a highly complex and emotionally-jarring experience for any child. When parents aren’t focused on their children’s needs during and after the divorce, when they aren’t aware of the consequences of every choice they make regarding their children, and when they can’t put themselves in their children’s shoes to experience divorce from the consciousness of a 5, 10 or 15 year old, they are unwittingly setting themselves and their children up for needless pain and sorrow.
Author Tara Eisenhard brings these points across in her simple diary of a 12 year old in a profound way — without lecturing, pontificating or judging. Parents who read this book “get” the message of divorce through a child’s eyes and hopefully can stop, think and re-examine every choice they’ve made and its effect on their children. As Founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network I highly recommend this book to every parent contemplating divorce as well as to divorce attorneys, mediators, therapists, coaches and other professionals who deal with this difficult transition for families. The book ends with promise. Eisenhard offers hope and a thoughtful perspective about how parents can move through divorce harmoniously with a win-win outcome — both for parents as well as the children they love.
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce
Told through the eyes, ears and feelings of a child, this readable, quick but thought provoking story of the beginning of a divorce will sensitize readers to the surprising range of challenges the child faces. For just one for instance: guilt. A child may or may not feel personal guilt over the fact of divorce, but they may feel guilty for many things. If parents battle openly, should the child have defended one parent to the other; to a sibling? Or, if they did defend, should they have been quiet, and did their decision, whatever it was, make matters worse between the parents? For themselves; for the sibling? Where and how do they get answers? And what happens if they don’t? And on, and on. Divorcing parents and their families should read this so that they have a perspective on what it means when someone says, or thinks to themselves, “think of the kid(s)”. Divorce and parenting plan mediators (I include those areas in my mediation practice) should read this to be reminded of the value of child focused mediations. And if you have the slightest reservation about the importance of protecting the emotional health of children, read some of the latest information on the topic in David Brook’s September 28, 2012 editorial in the New York Times: “The Psych Approach”.
David F. Zoll
The D Word is riveting account of the journey of a young girl traveling the rocky road of divorce and parental alienation. With each page turn Gina’s story becomes more heartbreaking. This healthy happy 12 year old is thrown into a loyalty bind filled with conflict and confusion. Her emotions are on a roller coaster that ultimately destroy the life she once knew and the reader is fully engaged in her fight to have a loving relationship with both her mom and dad. This is a must read for anyone involved in the divorce process.
President, Parental Alienation Awareness Organization USA
Tara Eisenhard has authored a truly insightful book on divorce and how it can impact children. The D-Word: Divorce Through a Child’s Eyes really opened my (Deesha’s) eyes to a deeper understanding of how children experience divorce, particularly how even well-meaning parents can exacerbate the fallout from divorce and undermine the child’s relationship with the other parent. Through the story of 12-year-old Gina whose parents separate at the outset of the book, Eisenhard has created a great resource not only for parents but for extended family, teachers, counselors, legal professionals–anyone who seeks to help children navigate their post-divorce lives by better understanding divorce from their perspective.
In The D-Word, the narrative is authentic and easy to read, and the lessons we can take away are presented in a thoughtful, balanced way. Eisenhard doesn’t preach, and there are no good guys vs. bad guys here–just parents who care deeply about their children, but who sometimes make hurtful or confusing choices as they struggle to rebuild their lives. I didn’t always agree with Gina’s parents’ choices, but the way Eisenhard’s crafted the story helped me to see them through a more sensitive lens. Healing from divorce is a process, an uneven one at that.
The D-Word paints a vivid, uncomfortable picture of the pressures that children in co-parenting families can face. Eisenhard tackles all the usual suspects here: conflict; communication and scheduling issues; alienation; money; new partners; how child development (e.g., adolescence) factors into children’s experience of divorce; and the challenge of moving on. But the story is also one of hope and the importance of forgiveness and honesty. Gina’s story will inspire as well as challenge co-parents to be better caretakers of their children–and themselves–during and after a divorce.
Co-Founder of CoParenting101.org